From my psychologist… I mean my Abnormal Psychology Professor. Is there a difference?
"Some advice as you prep for your exam…First, take deep breaths. This is only an exam and by now you’ve taken dozens of them, practice cognitive restructuring to decrease the probability of anxiety. Second, procrastination within the context of this unit represents behavioral avoidance, remember the way out of anxiety is to move toward it, structure your study time wisely. Third, indulge in some self-care this weekend, but beware of the dominating Id which would interfere with your efforts to limit avoidance :). Finally, know that you will be able to handle the outcome (your grade) no matter what it may be."
Last night was the 2013 MLB All-Star game. Ah, America’s pastime! Who doesn’t love a good baseball game? And what better way to open up America’s game then with a heartfelt rendition of ‘God Bless America’?
And…wait, a minute. Who is this guy coming out to sing God Bless AMERICA?
"It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."
THIS MAKES ME SOOOOOOO HAPPY!!!!!
EXACTLY!!!!! RT if you agree!:) XO B
I visited the MOMA yesterday with a friend. We entered an exhibit called Play Dead; Real Time, by Douglas Gordon. He arranged for an elephant to be transported to a gallery in New York City; then, he filmed it obeying a series of commands. Two movie-sized screens showed the elephant repeatedly lying down, standing up, etc… People could walk behind the screen, becoming a moving shadow and a part of the image viewed on the other side of the screen. My friend snapped a few pictures and only on returning home did I examine the images he captured.
Gordon wanted to convey that the elephant, as are so many others, is subject to overarching forces beyond its control.
I chose my actions, but when I looked at the photograph that had been taken of me and the other people in the image, who all happened to be women, I realized that we were a part of Gordon’s work.
Who were the women in the photograph? One woman (considered large in today’s society) with her child, two women appearing as if they were about to kiss (but perhaps not), one posing for a photograph, and me, reaching to touch to nose of the image of an elephant. I realized that though there was a giant elephant above our heads, it was not the only elephant in the room. This photograph became a piece of art for discourse, for the female and male gaze. The “elephant in the room” was not solely the image of an elephant compelled by millennia of evolution and its current circumstance to obey the commands of its master; it included the women who happened to be behind the screen who too were subject to forces eons in the making and affected by current circumstance.
Gordon had successfully conveyed his message; that sometimes we are subject to greater forces beyond our control. Whether we are all just players on a stage with our parts already written or in command of our every action is posed. Our personal interpretations will vary, but each will almost certainly contain some element of bittersweet irony.
June 16, 2013 (Big week…)
So, I’m not so rigid about #Veiling anymore #APictureSaysAThousandWords
Be THIS guy…
The troubling viral trend of the “hilarious” Black poor person
May 7, 2013
Charles Ramsey, the man who helped rescue three Cleveland women presumed dead after going missing a decade ago, has become an instant Internet meme. It’s hardly surprising—the interviews he gave yesterday provide plenty of fodder for a viral video, including memorable soundbites (“I was eatin’ my McDonald’s”) and lots of enthusiastic gestures. But as Miles Klee and Connor Simpson have noted, Ramsey’s heroism is quickly being overshadowed by the public’s desire to laugh at and autotune his story, and that’s a shame. Ramsey has become the latest in a fairly recent trend of “hilarious” black neighbors, unwitting Internet celebrities whose appeal seems rooted in a “colorful” style that is always immediately recognizable as poor or working-class.
Before Ramsey, there was Antoine Dodson, who saved his younger sister from an intruder, only to wind up famous for his flamboyant recounting of the story to a reporter. Since Dodson’s rise to fame, there have been others: Sweet Brown, a woman who barely escaped her apartment complex during a fire last year, and Michelle Clarke, who couldn’t fathom the hailstorm that rained down in her hometown of Houston, and in turn became “the next Sweet Brown.”
Granted, the buzzworthy tactic of reporters interviewing the most loquacious witnesses to a crime or other event is nothing new, and YouTube has countless examples of people of all ethnicities saying ridiculous things. One woman, for instance, saw fit to casually mention her breasts while discussing a local accident, while another man described a car crash with theatrical flair. Earlier this year, a “hatchet-wielding hitchhiker” named Kai matched Dodson’s fame with his astonishing account of rescuing a woman from a racist attacker. But none of those people have been subjected to quite the same level of derisive memeification as Brown, Clark, and now, perhaps, Ramsey—the inescapable echoes of “Hide yo’ kids, hide yo’ wife!” and “Kabooyaw,” the tens of millions of YouTube hits and cameos in other viral videos, even commercials.
It’s difficult to watch these videos and not sense that their popularity has something to do with a persistent, if unconscious, desire to see black people perform. Even before the genuinely heroic Ramsey came along, some viewers had expressed concern that the laughter directed at people like Sweet Brown plays into the most basic stereotyping of blacks as simple-minded ramblers living in the “ghetto,” socially out of step with the rest of educated America. Black or white, seeing Clark and Dodson merely as funny instances of random poor people talking nonsense is disrespectful at best. And shushing away the question of race seems like wishful thinking.
Ramsey is particularly striking in this regard, since, for a moment at least, he put the issue of race front and center himself. Describing the rescue of Amanda Berry and her fellow captives, he says, “I knew something was wrong when a little pretty white girl ran into a black man’s arms. Something is wrong here. Dead giveaway!”
The candid statement seems to catch the reporter off guard; he ends the interview shortly afterward. And it’s notable that among the many memorable things Ramsey said on camera, this one has gotten less meme-attention than most. Those who are simply having fun with the footage of Ramsey might pause for a second to actually listen to the man. He clearly knows a thing or two about the way racism prevents us from seeing each other as people.
Now that you know this is a thing, please stop sharing these memes. Poor Black people speaking candidly about various serious incidents isn’t a hilarious joke.
See the closet in the back of the classroom? That’s me in it. Finishing this semester requires my showing up to class. Since I still can’t sit for longer than 10 minutes, and I’ve garnered a bad rep for fainting when standing too long post-op, I had two options. Option 1: Lie down during class on a yoga mat, posturepedic pad and pillows in the back of the room or Option 2: Fail the course. Now, if you know me at all, you know there really were not two options.
So today, Dad in tow, (perhaps the other way around) we went to class. I received an initial, “What the…” look from every person that walked into the classroom, and then everyone forgot about the weird girl in the back of the room and focused on the lecture.
Here’s the thing. I looked ridiculous. I will laugh about this for years with my family and friends. 12 year old me would have been mortified. Now? I really couldn’t give a sh*t (excuse my potty mouth) about ANY if it. You do what you gotta do. If anyone has a problem with it, hopefully you’ve got a badass cane (and know how to use it) and an Italian father standing by your side.
In all seriousness, don’t give a second thought about what anyone thinks of you except your loved ones. ‘Embarrassed’ should not be a word in your vocabulary.
Thanks for all your love and support!